Better Choices don't need force. They need a nudge

Better Choices don’t need force.
They need a nudge

You’re drowning in advice. I get it.

Every Monday morning, you wake up to another flood of “Top 10 Tips” and “5 Secrets to Success.” Another guru promising transformation. Another framework that worked for someone else’s life, not yours.

And yet, here you are—still searching. Still trying to figure out how to lead better, work smarter, think clearer, live fuller.

The problem isn’t that you don’t know enough. It’s that you know too much.

Too much noise. Too many voices. Too many people telling you exactly what to do, when the truth is: your life isn’t their life.

I started nudgeself because I was tired of the noise too.

My Story

I’m Nikhil—an IT professional turned product manager, father of three wildly energetic kids, husband, son, brother. I’ve spent years rising from nothing, learning the hard way that growth doesn’t come from following someone else’s playbook. It comes from failing, learning, and choosing to try again.

All my life, I’ve followed one rule above all others:

“No one blames the capable.”

Not the person who tried and failed. Not the person who’s still figuring it out. But the person who became capable—who learned, adapted, and grew.

That’s what I want for you.

What nudgeself Is (and Isn’t)

This isn’t a place for quick fixes or cookie-cutter solutions.

You won’t find “Top 5” lists here. You won’t find me telling you exactly what to do.

What you will find:

Real-life situations that mirror your own struggles
Thoughtful nudges—not prescriptions—that help you see options you hadn’t considered
Insights that make you think: “I knew that, but I never thought about it that way”

My philosophy is simple:

I give you the nudges
You make the choices
Your life changes

I’m not here to direct you. I’m here to help you lead yourself.

Who This Is For

You’re here because you’re not looking for someone to hand you answers. You’re looking for someone to help you find your own.

You’re the person who:

Wants to be led, but not directed
Knows there’s more to life than just getting through the week
Fights your own thoughts every day to become who you want to be
Refuses to give up, even when it’s hard

You’re capable. You just need the right nudge at the right time.

What to Expect

Every article here is rooted in real life—yours, mine, or someone like us. These aren’t abstract theories. They’re the moments that happen to all of us: the Sunday night dread, the meeting where you stayed silent, the decision you keep putting off, the habit you can’t seem to break.

I write about what’s real. You decide what’s next.

Let’s Grow Together

I’m still learning. Still failing. Still figuring it out—just like you.

But I know this: the people who grow aren’t the ones who never fall. They’re the ones who choose to get back up.

If that’s you, you’re in the right place.

Welcome to NudgeSelf.